Party With A Purpose

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What a weekend it was! I took off Friday to help my sweet Bear as he had his wisdom teeth taken out. Poor guy, he’s still on the mend…hopefully he’ll be back in action in the next few days! And while most of my weekend was devoted to playing nurse, Saturday I took on another role, that of hostess along with three of my girlfriends and we hosted a Party with a Purpose to raise money for the American Cancer Society’s Corporate Hero Circle.

It was a great afternoon and, aside from a short 10 minute rain shower, it was a beautiful day and so much fun! We had a fun band, Lager and the Fatties, who kept the crowd entertained and dancing, lots of yard games, and a pretty amazing raffle. All told, we raised over $1600 for the American Cancer Society! Not to shabby for an afternoon backyard party! If you would like to take part in our fight against cancer, I would be so honored to have your support with a donation to my Corporate Hero Circle fundraising efforts. To donate, simply click here. You have until June 15th to donate, should you choose to. Many thanks in advance for your support!

Here are a few snaps from the party! Thanks to everyone who came out to support the American Cancer Society!

Tabitha, Meredith, Lacey and I...the hostesses!

Tabitha, Meredith, Lacey and me…the hostesses!

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Two Stock the Bar Raffle Packages

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Lovely Ladies

 

Thanks again to everyone who came out! And if you, too, would like to donate to support the American Cancer Society, click here to be taken to my donation page. Happy Monday!

My Oklahoma-Shaped Heart

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I’ve tried to start this post some 10 or 15 times but never really know what to say. I am heartbroken by the tragedy the struck Moore, Oklahoma in the form of a monstrous tornado yesterday afternoon, just one day after another significant tornado in Shawnee, Oklahoma…and less than a week after the tornadoes that ripped through Granbury, Cleburne and other parts of North Texas.  I can’t remember a tornado season like this in these parts.

After spending four of my best years of life in Oklahoma for college, the state, and particularly the Norman area (just south of Moore) will forever hold a special place in my heart. It’s where I learned to live on my own, and to loosen up and enjoy myself more, and where I made the best friends I will EVER have…my forever friends. And because of that, I still have a lot of ties to the area. I guess what made yesterday’s tornado seem even bigger to me was realizing just how many people I love and hold dear were directly the path of that tornado’s destruction. My youngest sister, Caroline, is in school at the OU Health Sciences Center in OKC and she lives in Norman, her boyfriend’s parents and grandmother live in Moore, one of best friends, Ashley, lives on the Norman/Moore borderline…and that’s just to name a few of the many.

I was texting Caroline like a crazy, overprotective mother yesterday making sure she was safe and out of harm’s way. I was praying over Ashley’s storm cellar doors on Facebook….I was totally consumed by the enormity of this thing.  The photos of the devastation are almost mind-numbing. It doesn’t really seem possible. And then the children. Oh the children, Lord. I got home and just sort of dissolved into tears. I couldn’t help it.

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But just like good ol Toby Keith said, Moore (and really Oklahoma as a whole) is “strong and will persevere.” There is work to be done and rebuilding to start. What has happened cannot be changed. We can only learn from it and get on with it. We now have a duty to lift this community up in prayer, and to get down and dirty helping them rebuild and repair however we can. Here are a few ways you can help:

  • American Red Cross: Make a $10 donation by texting REDCROSS to 90999,  donate online or over the phone at 1-800-RED-CROSS
  • Salvation Army: Make a $10 donation by texting STORM to 80888, donate online or over the phone at 1-800-SAL-ARMY.
  • Oklahoma Baptist Disaster Relief Volunteers: Make a donation online .
  • Regional Food Bank of Oklahoma: Text FOOD to 32333 or donate online.

I know there are many more and I absolutely encourage you to share resources if you have them! I know sometimes it’s hard to know how to help when something like this happens. Take it from me, with my non-profit experience, if you have any money to give I PROMISE that is the best thing right now. That way they can get the items they most need, and the people who are trained in recovery and cleanup can do the work they are made to do.

My heart is with you, Oklahoma!

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Engagement Session Snaps

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I have to apologize for the incredibly self indulgent post that follows but I just had to share the amazing engagement photos we just got in. It was a sweltering hot day, the only one in a long stretch of cool days, and somehow our photographers will still able to make us look like we weren’t totally sweat-drenched and wilted. We have the great pleasure of having the brilliant Jenny and Eddie of Jenny Martell Photography as part of our dynamo wedding team and I can’t begin to tell you how excited I am to have them capture our wedding after seeing what they put together from our engagement session. Jenny and Eddie put together the concept for the shoot based on a few questions we answered for them and knocked it out of the park. Excuse us while we do our best Johnny and June Cash impersonations. *wink, wink*

It is always so hard to edit photo selections down, but here are some of my favorites. Enjoy!

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Tuesday Tunes: Happy 80th Willie!

Tuesday Tunes

Willie Nelson. He is as synonymous with Texas as bluebonnets and The Alamo. And today, he turns 80 years old (which, really, is pretty incredible considering the life he has lived!). So really there is nobody else I could possibly feature than the man himself!

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I have had the privilege of seeing Willie play on quite a few occasions and there’s just nobody quite like him…he’s still Willie, and that voice is still just as leathery and poetic as ever…and you never know quite what you’re going to get, but it’s sure to be a great show no matter which route, or detour, it takes. In fact, on one occasion I heard Willie sing Whiskey River no less that four times…in one set. I think the Whiskey River has been flowing pre-show and, indeed, taken his mind!

If you haven’t seen him perform, you should definitely make plans to asap. Put on your boots and get ready for a good time. Without further ado, I give you the birthday boy himself, Willie Nelson…

One For My Baby and One For The Road

Crazy

Heartbreak Hotel

Pancho and Lefty with Emmylou Harris

Whiskey River

 

Tuesday Tunes: 03.25.13

Tuesday Tunes

It’s been a while since we’ve had a Tuesday Tunes and today seems like a good day for some good music. There is truly no rhyme or reason to what I’ve chosen other than it’s stuff I like, and hopefully you will too! Without further ado…

Power Hour

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5 a.m.: the power hour. I’ve spent a good long while totally convinced that there was no way I could ever be a morning workout person. “It’s too early and I need lots of sleep to be productive during the day,” or “I don’t have the energy to get my best possible workout that early…I do better in the evenings,” and even “I won’t have enough time to get ready and to work on time if I work out in the morning.” I’d also convinced myself that I couldn’t physically handle back to back intense workouts, “My body needs ‘rest days’ between intense days…” Believe me, I was NOT, no way, no how ever going to be a morning workout person. It was settled.

But then, after months of paying for Camp Gladiator and only making it to camp twice a week, at best, or none at all at worst, and subsequently seeing no results, my friend Sarah and I decided our system just wasn’t working. Something had to change if we wanted to reach our weight loss and fitness goals.

And so we made a plan to do what I never thought was possible for me–we were going to Tuesday’s 5:30 a.m. camp. I had my doubts that we would actually make it. But then a funny thing happened. We made it to camp. And not only did we make it to camp, we felt great having gone and were more energetic throughout the morning, more productive at work and actually excited to work out. Somewhere between 5:30 and 6:30 a.m, something changed: my perspective.

Now, not only can I do it, I want to do it! I even caught myself saying to Sarah this morning, “Man we should’ve started Monday so we could make it all five days this week!” WHAT?! Crazy right? In just a one hour on a random Tuesday morning, my workout became something I no longer dread all day long before coming up with a reason I can’t make it, or felt guilty about having to miss because of a meeting or event in the evening. My workout is part of my morning routine. It’s just one more step I take before hopping in the shower and getting ready for work.

Plus, it’s positively affecting the rest of my day as well. I eat better the rest of the day because I don’t want to blow everything I got up early to do. Before, I would eat junk all day long with the thought that I would just work it off at camp that night. Again, it’s just a little shift in thinking that has big impact! I get far more done in the morning when I get to work, and when I get home in the evening, I can jump right into whatever I need to get done. It’s not 7 pm before I can start on something because I had to go workout in the evening. The evenings are mine and I’ve been making the most of them!

Now, all of this said, we are only three days into our new routine, but I truly believe there is no turning back. Sarah and I have already confirmed we will be out there again tomorrow morning (again, Friday workouts? A few days ago those just wouldn’t ever have happened.) I must confess I am very sore today and I’m more tired than I have been thus far BUT this was to be expected and it’s just the hump I have to get over while my body adjusts to the new schedule. And now I have the determination to push myself past this hump!

So, what have you dubbed “impossible” in your own life? Maybe it’s time you give it another try. Challenge the voice that tells you you can’t. Because maybe you can. And even if you can’t, you can’t just yet. Start working at it, believe that you can, and I bet pretty soon you’ll have achieved “the impossible.”  See you in the morning?!

 

photo credit: Family and MWR Programs

The Wait

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I stumbled upon this little vignette I wrote back in 2010 while I was going through old journals last night. It’s funny how things take on different shape with the passing of time, yet I can still remember exactly where I was when I wrote it. It is a complete just stream of thought, no editing, so don’t judge it too harshly!

The Wait

There she sits, a 20 something girl, black dress, hair pulled back, red lips – others around her wonder what she’s doing, scribbling in her journal, waiting on someone…but who? they wonder.

As she glances around the room, it’s early enough that it’s not yet busy. Though, there is a tangible anxiousness in the air. The clouds are looming overhead and the air is damp.

She, too, is anxious and a nervous excitement is building. It’s been a week since they’ve seen each other. With the weekend’s events hanging out in front of them, this may be their only chance to drink each other in 0 to shut the rest of the world out and to get reaquainted with one another.

The anticipation continues to build and that nervous flutter begins to fill her stomach.

Every person who enters seems to have deceptively similar features, though at second glance, they look hardly alike at all.

The waitress comes back to clarify, “Excuse me, ma’am, are you waiting on somebody?” “Yes, I’m sorry–he’s coming in from the airport. He should be here any moment…” the girl stutters back, trying her best to sound reassuring.

“No problem,” the waitress smiles back warmly. But behind her eyes, she is clearly skeptical.

The girl glances down on her water again. He’ll be here any minute she repeats to herself.

She catches the eye of the hostess who is clearly wondering where the other half of her party is. She gets the feeling the hostess is tempted to remove the girl from her table to seat someone else.

The room has somehow filled without her notice and there is a noticable wait now out front.

The nervousness begins to swell within her. These are not situations in which she thrives. The stares of the restaurant staff looking on, whispering about how she s taking up valuable real estate begin to weigh down on her. Up to this point she’s gone largely unnoticed by the other diners, but she’s starting to feel as though they are all sneaking glances at her as if they are thinking, “Poor girl, she’s being stood up but is holding out hope.”

As she nervously keeps checking her phone for an update as to his whereabouts she begins to wonder if maybe she got the time wrong, the location. Maybe he doesn’t actually get home until the next day. Just as she has nearly convinced herself this is the case, she grabs her coat to stand up and then

in through the door he walks. Relief floods over her and all she can do is smile. She knew he wouldn’t let her down…

photo by Roberto Trm

Tuesday Tunes: Feeling French

One of my favorite parts of the story of how Bear and I came to be came to pass very early on when we had first met, before we were dating. At the time it was definitely not my favorite but now it makes us laugh every time. I won’t go into all of it now, but let’s just say he tried to woo me by “speaking French” although he doesn’t speak French at all! As we start planning our wedding, a number of French songs have come to mind and I just love how they bring back memories of that first incident. So today, let’s let that beautiful language dance in our ears as we set out to make it a great day.

Le Temps De L’amour – Francoise Hardy

Quelqu’un m’a dit – Carla Bruni

La Vie en Rose – Edith Piaf

La Mer – Charles Trenet

 

 

Love Online

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Love is in the air, and Valentines Day has everyone shuffling to make plans with their significant other or their girlfriends so they have something to do for the evening. To say that dating has changed significantly, even just since I was in high school, is an understatement. Back then you had to actually call someone on the phone to ask them out, or maybe even ask them out IN PERSON! Nearly everyone had dial up internet or the just emerging cable internet, but nobody would think about dating online. Oh how that has changed!

Gone is the stigma attached with signing up on match.com or eharmony.com. Now days there seem to be dating sites set up for every segment of the population! Is your faith a big factor? There’s Jdate.com for the Jewish singles, ChristianMingle.com for the Christians (obviously) and HinduConnections.com for the Hindus. Is race important? How about blackpeoplemeet.com or indiandating.com. Really, if there’s a specific group you only want to date within, there is a site to help you do that.

So wouldn’t you be surprised to know that the very first technology driven dating actually goes back as far as the ’50?! I came across this great video on the New York Times website today about two Standford students, Philip Fialer and James Harvey, who created the first dating program for a class project back in 1959 (for which they received an A!). It’s funny to hear them talk about some of the first matches they made and their success, or lack there of.

Have you tried online dating? My aunt met her husband, now my uncle, on match.com and I have several other friends who have had a lot of success!

Valentine by Cali4Beach.

Lent

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Today is Ash Wednesday and marks the start of the Christian Lenten season. While I am not Catholic, I think Lent is an important time in our Christian walk as it is a dedicated time for us to prepare ourselves for Easter (I wrote on this last year) and really dwell of the Lord. Part of this preparation typically involves some sort of fasting, or giving something up for the 40 days leading up to Easter. I’ve decided this year I am going to, once again, give up alcohol for Lent and make a concerted effort to cut out fast food and all the junk food I’ve been eating of late (the second will take more preparation and planning than I’m accustomed to when it comes to food. So it’ll certainly be a challenge).

But I don’t want to just give something up, I want to give something back. My mom is really the one who brought this approach to my attention and I really love it. So I am planning to write a note, or a card, or even an email, to someone every day for the next 40 days to just tell them I love them, or am proud of them, or encouraged by them. I think we have really become so isolated from each other in many ways because of technology but also because we are just constantly pushing to reach the next milestone or goal and we don’t often take the time to celebrate what has been accomplished. I want to offer encouragement and support, in God’s name, this Lenten season.

So my question for you is are you giving anything up this year? Is there a particular reason you’ve chosen this to give up? And would you consider adding to your Lent commitment something to give back? It doesn’t have to be anything huge…but just something to take things beyond just yourself. Afterall, what better way to improve yourself than by helping to build up others around you?  I’d love to hear your thoughts!

photo by Fadi Habib.

Tuesday Tunes: The Big Easy

New Orleans

There’s just something about New Orleans, isn’t there? Truth be told, I’ve only been once as a college Junior, not quite 21 (but does that really matter in New Orleans?) with a group of friends for the Sugar Bowl. We had the best time and I’d love to get back there sometime soon. There’s just something about the Big Easy that elicits an emotional response. The food, the music, the sights and sounds…it’s like a whole different country with a different culture and a unique, infectious spirit.

With today being Mardi Gras, and a rainy dreary one at that here in Dallas, I figure what better time than now to let the sounds of New Orleans transport us to a sunny, festive, celebrating state of mind. You’ll be dancing in your office in no time. …you might even want to pick up a King Cake while you’re out at lunch!

Tailgate Ramble – The Preservation Hall Jazz Band

Big Chief - Rebirth Brass Band

Dirty Old Man - The Dirty Dozen Brass Band

Percolatin’ Blues – Smoking Time Jazz Club

…and we can’t leave this one out…

When The Saints Go Marching In - Louis Armstrong

 

 

 

photo by Jorge de la Torriente

The Passionate Shepherd to His Love

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The Passionate Shepherd to His Love

by Christopher Marlow

Come live with me and be my love,
And we will all the pleasures prove
That valleys, groves, hills, and fields,
Woods, or steepy mountain yields.

And we will sit upon the rocks,
Seeing the shepherds feed their flocks,
By shallow rivers to whose falls
Melodious birds sing madrigals.

And I will make thee beds of roses
And a thousand fragrant posies,
A cap of flowers, and a kirtle
Embroidered all with leaves of myrtle;

A gown made of the finest wool
Which from our pretty lambs we pull;
Fair lined slippers for the cold,
With buckles of the purest gold;

A belt of straw and ivy buds,
With coral clasps and amber studs:
And if these pleasures may thee move,
Come live with me, and be my love.

The shepherds’ swains shall dance and sing
For thy delight each May morning:
If these delights thy mind may move,
Then live with me and be my love.

photo by Francisco Antunes
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